Change is good

Change is good

It’s time for a change—to my blog, that is.

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.
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I miss writing on a more regular basis and particularly miss writing for me. I’ve been in a bit of a funk and realized that changing up my blog was something that could help. But what should I write about? Does anyone care what I have to say? Do I need a theme?

I first began blogging in 2011 when I was returning to college full-time. Sharing my fears, successes, struggles and head scratching moments became an outlet for me in the midst of exams, papers, juggling the kids’ activities and juggling housework. Then I joined the world of working moms and not only did I feel like I didn’t “have time” to blog, I felt like I didn’t have anything new to add. I was just another mom trying to figure it all out. Most nights, the last thing I wanted to do was get on a computer after being at one all day.

Over the last year, though, I have felt a pull to figure out how to fit in writing more for me. I’ve also felt like my outlook on life is changing as I get older and I’ve realized that being in my forties isn’t this depressing time filled with failing vision and sprouting chin hairs. Well, my vision has changed and I do check my chin regularly just in case, but my forties have been pretty damn fabulous so far. I’m making changes to make my forties good, though. I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t care what people think and don’t care if I’m just another blogger out there. I have thoughts to share and I hope people read them. I hope people want to read about how I’m making these changes and why I feel so good these days.

I plan to post more and figure out a fresh new design for this site. I’ll be focusing on the fabulous, so I will kind of have a theme. There’s too much negativity out there and I’d rather focus on the positive. A Facebook page for the blog might eventually be coming and I’ll be using #focusingonthefabulous on Instagram and Twitter—join me in sharing the fab and share with your friends!

Mid-Year Bad Blogger Check-in

Ok, my last blog post was like six months ago and I said I wanted to blog more in my last one. I kinda suck. I’ve started a few potential posts that I never finished, which, for me, is progress, but…..I know, I know.

Anyway, I had some 2017 goals that I put out there in January and I’ve been mentally evaluating how I’m doing.

  • More yoga, meditation and exercise Yup, yep, and yep. More on that.
  • Watch less TV. Seriously, it’s a time suck and hindering me doing other things Getting there. I have a few core shows that I won’t give up, but I love the DVR, so I can watch them when I want AND fast forward.
  • More reading. I’ll have time for this if I watch less TV. Duh Getting there. I discovered that the library near my office is on the same network as my city’s library and I can get books there. I’ve also downloaded the library’s e-book app, too.
  • More fun times with friends Yup. Realizing how lucky I am that my best friend of 23 years and I ended up living so close to each other and that our kids are close.
  • More date nights with my husband. We do get out—it’s great having older kids who can stay home for a few hours so we can spontaneously grab dinner together—but we don’t make it a priority and don’t plan to do different things We’ve done a few different things lately and went to the movies a few weeks ago. We realized we hadn’t gone to see a movie just us since we were dating.
  • Visit more new places, both local and further away We went to NYC over the boys’ spring break from school. I’d never been before and absolutely loved it. I want to go back.
  • Teach my kids to cook I think my husband has been working on this one with them. I’m a lousy cook. I should probably join in on the lessons! 🙂
  • Spend more time outdoors Yup! More walking in the beautiful areas near our home.
  • Blog more We all know the answer to this one.

So, bullet point one: I do yoga a few nights a week. I use an app and do it at home and keep it simple. I love restorative yoga and it helps with my flexibility, relaxes me and helps me sleeps on the nights I need some help there. I was better about the meditation at the beginning of the year and have kind of slacked off on this one, but I’m trying to get better about it again. I was also doing various exercise DVDs earlier in the year and while they provide me with great workouts, they aren’t ideal for me. I’m not as motivated to do them regularly and it’s easier to skip a day. I recently DISCOVERed boxing, however, and that has kind of been a game-changer for me. That actually deserves its own post, which means….I might actually have a new topic to write about soon!

Goals graphic

Life isn’t perfect and it’s not always easy to stick to the goals one sets, but I’m definitely trying to be more mindful of the ones I set. I think that’s a success in and of itself. 

Have You Ever Found Yourself in a Style Rut?

Have you ever wished that Stacy London and Clinton Kelly from TLC’s “What Not to Wear” could take you away on a shopping spree and tell you what looked good on you?  Well, that’s where I’ve been lately.  I started struggling with my clothes last semester.  Many would say I looked fine, and maybe I did, but I felt like I was in a rut.  I was wearing clothing to school that was 3-5 years old with an occasional new piece thrown in to the mix.

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courtesy of stockfreeimages.com

When I began working in an administrative office in September as part of my directed study, I realized I needed to up my game.  I was allowed to wear jeans to the office since I am a student, but I felt dowdy.  I wanted to look like I’d made more of an effort when administrators came into the office and I was introduced to them.  I slowly started picking up new pieces of clothing and tried to plan my better outfits according to when I was in the office.

Even though I was trying to make an effort, I still felt like something was missing.  One day I was trying to figure out which scarf I should wear with a specific top and I mentioned Erin over at The Glam Life Project in a tweet because I was wishing I could think outside the box like she does.  Erin is my friend’s sister-in-law and we’ve seen each other at many of my friend’s family events.

We went back and forth via email for a bit and she’s given me some wonderful ideas, some of which I have already started implementing.  It’s going to take a lot of money to overhaul my wardrobe—this is where I’m jealous of the “What Not to Wear” folks—but this gives me a chance to learn what works for me.  I’m trying to slowly build a transitional wardrobe with pieces that work when I am in “mom mode” and also work with a skirt or dress pants when I need to look professional.  I have no idea what type of attire will be required when I get a job, but at least I don’t feel stuck in 2009.  I feel like I am moving forward, which is especially important because I am a PR major.  PR majors are supposed to be hip…or at least that’s what I tell myself.

So I’m learning about style, and trying to make more of an effort in figuring out what looks good on me and what pieces work together.  I will be sure to keep you posted! In the meantime, check out Erin’s blog if you are looking for some style inspiration yourself!